If you’ve ever wanted to achieve anything in life – be it a career or personal goal, you’d know that changing your habits by applying self-control is a must. Unfortunately, self-control and self-discipline don’t grow on trees, but the good news is: anyone can develop them with consistency and the right attitude. If you want to become a more disciplined person start with these habits of highly disciplined women.
What Is Self-Discipline
I love the definition of self-discipline by Cambridge Dictionary:
the ability to make yourself do things you know you should do even when you do not want to
So well described and so true. I don’t need self-discipline when I order pizza, I need some to order a salad.
The Importance Of Self-Discipline
In the past, I’ve always viewed people who were disciplined as these kind of, soulless, boring robots that only do things because they basically some kind of disorder. I thought they were pretty unhappy.
You grow up and you realize life’s not what you thought it was. Because without discipline you’re gonna have an unnecessarily tough life that’s full of regret and guilt.
If there’s one thing that can make you successful, no matter how you define success, it’s being disciplined. Discipline can make you a happier person according to research and it will set you free. Free from the confusion and guilt trips going on in your mind about not doing what you’re supposed to do right now. When you’re not disciplined you’re giving yourself and others mixed signals. You and others are confused about you and can’t take your word seriously.
But once you become disciplined, you start respecting yourself more. You start trusting yourself more and you become more confident and start feeling empowered. Like you can do anything you want. And guess what – with the right amount of self-control, you can. What’s more: people start to trust you and to want to be around you more.
7 Habits Of Highly Disciplined Women
1. They write down their goals.
Disciplined women are clear about what they want out of life and where they’re headed. They clearly define and write down their goals. So think about what you want out of life and reverse engineer how you’re gonna achieve it. Break it all down into little actionable steps that aren’t that scary and that you can take each week and each day. Write those goals and tasks every week. Then, keep your word and take action.
2. They say no. A lot.
When you’re clear about what you want, you’re also clear about what you do not want. Disciplined women are super goal oriented and they say no to anything that doesn’t support their goals – no matter how shiny and tempting it is. Saying no can feel unnatural to some of us women and we might get that fear of missing out, but in the long run, I promise, it’s worth it.
3. They Make Self-Care A Priority.
The freeing thing about being disciplined and clear about what you’re going after is that you stop that inner debate that many of us have on a daily basis. Do I have time to exercise today? I shouldn’t eat that bag of chips…I have to finish this, then I’ll go to bed…Disciplined people know that health is our biggest asset and we can’t function well without it. So will they exercise, eat healthy and get enough sleep every day? It’s not even up for debate, it’s something they simply prioritize and do.
4. They Value Structure and Routines.
Disciplined people know how important having structure in their lives and at work is. They create routines and processes for themselves, so that things can go smoothly. Having structure and routines in place can save you time, energy and can speed up the process of achieving what you want.
5. They Finish.
The one thing most people struggle with is not starting – it’s finishing. It is always exciting when you’re working on a new goal and getting started. It’s getting past that initial excitement, actually doing the “boring” part and finishing that yields real results. The world is full of half-done, almost perfect books and projects. But remember, we only get to see the finished ones. Always keep that in mind when you’re getting lost in details trying to perfect what you’re creating. Done is better than perfect.
6. They’re always put together.
How you present yourself in the world is important and disciplined women know that. They’re always put together and ready for new opportunities to come their way. Can you imagine meeting someone like Oprah and wearing sweatpants and a messy bun?
7. They Love Deadlines.
Finally, if you want to have more discipline to achieve your goals – set deadlines. Deadlines create that urgency that can make you finish projects you thought were gonna take months in weeks. If you’re not a disciplined woman yet, having an approaching deadline can magically transform you into one.